Miss Bossy and Sports Dude are African American. When we adopted them we weren't looking forward to the day when they paid attention to the fact that their skin was darker than ours.
And despite our fears, it really hasn't bothered them. We know they know because they will mention the fact occasionally. They might point out that the kid in the book they're reading has brown skin like them or that he or she has tan skin like ours.
We don't make it a big issue as we don't really pay attention to it. About the only time that it becomes a problem is when we are having family pictures because Sports Dude and Miss Bossy's faces won't be clear if they are in front of jeans or a dark colored shirt. We also have to moisturize their hair and skin more than our own.
One time Mom and I were talking about a family and I mentioned that they probably didn't even recognize us, when Mom pointed out that we probably are very recognizable because Sports Dude and Miss Bossy have a different skin color than us. I said, "OH!" It hadn't even dawned on me. I don't even think about it!
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I just found your blog. I intend to add it to my blog roll.! Great job. Great writing. Adoptive parents should encourage families they are close to- to read your blog. They will 'get it'. :) Keep up the good work!
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